If you are a mom running a business or you’re thinking about having children and running your small business, then this post is for you. I want to share a little bit of the struggles that we face as moms running a business, especially if you’re a solo female entrepreneur.
BUSINESS OWNER & FIRST TIME MOM
I remember in the very beginning stages of running my first business and my daughter was five months old at the time. I was pretty heavily into postpartum, which was not the best. I knew the moment I met her, that she would forever change me. I was in a job that was not making me very happy. I knew I wanted more, but I didn’t really know if I had the courage to do it. When I met my daughter, it was a gift. I looked into her eyes, and I said no, I’m not doing this anymore, I am going to do more for my life.
I wanted her to be proud of me. I wanted her to be inspired. That she could take action towards your dreams of whatever she wanted to do. There was just such a genuine shift that happened.
There’s something that is to be said about running a business with a child or multiple children. There’s layers of protecting them and loving them immensely. Then there’s parts of you that want so deeply to grow inside of your business, but the growth that you want, you’re afraid maybe that it’ll affect your children. I just remember having to believe so much in myself, that failure was not an option. I was doing this because I was meant to help people.
I want to talk about how to not only balance your time, but to balance the guilt that comes along with being a mother and being present for your children.
Why did you start this business?
It’s probably because either A, it’s your passion or B, you were just meant to help people and make people feel a certain thing. Or maybe it’s a combination of A and B, you’re taking your passion and you’re meant to help people with it, which is such a beautiful thing to be able to do.
When it comes to growing your business, the only way I could grow my business was to actually outsource so I could spend more time with my kids. I now have two children. I spend more time with them than I ever have. Did I mention I have three businesses? It’s because I was able to find and implement humans that believed in what I believe. I was able to be brave enough to take a chance to learn, to grow and to be uncomfortable.
What is your reason? Why are you doing this business? Why do you have this job? What about it is making you feel absolutely fulfilled?
Number one, know your why.
Number two, get really clear about what outsourcing actually means.
Outsourcing doesn’t mean that you’re giving up control in your business. Outsourcing means staying in your area of genius and finding other humans that care about your business just as much as you do.
If you’re at a point in your business, where you’re saying, I’m spending too much time doing everything inside of my business. I’m not really present with my children or my partner. I want to be able to grow, but I just don’t know how.
Then what you want to find out is what are you doing day to day? What are you doing every single moment of every single day? Do a time audit. Where are you spending the most of your time?
Another thing you want to think about is your leadership position. Where are you when it comes to leading inside of this business? Are you afraid that you won’t be able to show up as an amazing CEO? Are you afraid that you may be micromanaging? Are you afraid that you don’t know how to train somebody?
Those are all valid concerns, but write these things down because this strategy and these understandings are so important when moving forward.
The most important thing to remember is that while you’re doing this you end up doing the work not only that lights you up, but you also get to create your dream schedule.
Outsourcing is about creating your dream life and balance. It’s about creating moments with people that you love that you’ll never forget. You are 100% in charge.